Plastic surgery is a decision you should make for yourself, not for your friends and not for your family. But for those who are very close to you, you still want to talk to them about this very personal decision in ways that maintain the relationships you value. Here are some basic tips for talking to your friends and family about your plastic surgery.
Enlist Help Early On–Identify a few of your closest friends and relatives when you are in the early decision-making process. Everyone whose opinion matters to you should be told before the procedure. Don’t be surprised if your most trusted friends try to talk you out of the decision. They cannot see you the way you see you—they love you in spite of the appearance flaws that impact your self-confidence. The good news is that friends and family who love you now will love you just as much after your plastic surgery, and though they may not seem initially supportive, they will be some of your greatest helpers during recovery. And they will likely love your results as much as you do.
Accentuate the Positive—When you’re talking about your plastic surgery, emphasize the parts of the experience that make you feel good. Don’t let people get you turned toward the negative, and especially don’t let people make you feel like you have to defend your decision. Chances are, other people will respond to your positive talk in a similar vein–and you’ll receive genuine compliments and supportive comments.
Build Up to Tough Audiences—If you know your family might say some rude things about your surgery, debut your results with friends first. Practice talking about your motives and results in places where you feel welcome and supported so that you’re ready when you visit with those who may be less generous.
Never Go It Alone—Bring a member of your support team with you anyplace you expect there might be trouble. They can either “run interference” if the subject comes up or give you comfort after a heated exchange.
We have a lot of experience helping people talk to friends and loved ones about plastic surgery, and if this is an issue for you, we can talk about it at your consultation or during other visits. To schedule a consultation, please contact Gayoso Plastic Surgery in Tampa today.
